tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post2790626809799221019..comments2023-08-09T10:19:05.152-05:00Comments on intentional focus: Somehow my children have survived this long.i am nothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18171163606325855644noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-55671479762143796432006-12-23T11:00:00.000-06:002006-12-23T11:00:00.000-06:00i too have watched my littleone topple headlong ov...i too have watched my littleone topple headlong over the front end of the basket part of the cart - landed flat on his back after flipping heals over head. i was so gladhe had a coat on for extra padding but it scared the fire out of me! i was secretly relieved that no one seemed to see it - he was terrified. after that he ALWAYS has to sit in the cart. screams or not. if i'm going to the store for a long time i try to bring snacks OR (get this) :) i pick up something IN the store and open it before i pay for it (and YES, i DO actually pay for it). :)<br /><br />melissa and sgt are cracking me up. :)<br /><br />i am guessing these mom's mean well and just want to help... maybe they've lost just enough of their "care what other people think" to step up when they think we need it.<br /><br />i did get pretty ticked at a lady (in the older than 50 category though) who was staring at seth - talking to him NOT me (now is that passive aggressive or what!) about how pink his cheeks were and how hot he was and how those footie (light cotton) jammies might be too hot)... here's the scoop. we'd gone from home in the middle of a texas summer (just trust me - it's HOT) to an air conditioned car, drove, oh, about 2-3 miles - 3 or 4 tops. got out of the AIR CONDITIONED CAR and headed into the walmart - which didn't have what i needed so we turned right back around to leave and stopped by the soda machines - where this lady was. she sees his scarlet red cheeks (which he gets INSTANTLY in warmth, just like his daddy - making it look more severe than it was) and starts talking to him about how hot he must be. PALEEEASE LADY! then AS she's walking away she says "YOU BETTER BE CAREFUL!" and turns around to keep walking. I simply said "NO THANK YOU." immature of me? ha ha! you know, if she'd have started talking to me and been in my face maybe i'd have reacted more strongly - or maybe if she asked me about his little pink cheeks i could have explained and her mind would be set at ease... it's just not right, i'm learning, to judge other families so quickly when we don't know the whole story. seth and i were going right back into our air-conditioned car back to our VERY COLD HOUSE (jas likes it very cool - thus seth was in a little cotton sleeper).... and seth's cheeks redden very easily.. he was just fine.<br /><br />this is just a tough one and i hope i'm not ever that kind of person to other moms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-28527744774931043032006-12-23T08:35:00.000-06:002006-12-23T08:35:00.000-06:00ok, you had me in your corner until the 40ish comm...ok, you had me in your corner until the 40ish comments...I'm rounding that number, just a couple more weeks to go. ok, well I guess I'm a bit testy about the age thing right now. I've been where you are, I've done the let them stand thing, even surfing on the side of the cart almost pulling it over on top of themselves. I've had the lady run over and stop me too...I just don't want to be one of the running ladies, I'm not ready to turn that corner yet! <br />So, you are NOT a bad mommy! You're the best kind of mommy, the kind that lets her kids make decisions for themselves while keeping a watchful eye to make sure they don't go too far. I know you had it under control! Keep up the good work with your kids! I'll just go and sulk a while over the 40 thing, really, it's me not you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-17327041895989440462006-12-22T15:53:00.000-06:002006-12-22T15:53:00.000-06:00@Cousin Jen: If someone is mentioning that the ho...@Cousin Jen: If someone is mentioning that the hot tub gives them psychological changes. You want to grab your child and run. God knows what they did in that water.<br /><br />As for the "free parenting" try being a man for a while. Well, not literally, but you know what I mean. Apparently as a man, I just don't know what I am doing and women feel the need to instruct. As if after 4 children I just don't get it yet.<br /><br />And oh yes.. gotta love those advisors with no children.Sgthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776619714461836931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-63405813885878219022006-12-21T22:00:00.000-06:002006-12-21T22:00:00.000-06:00This has yet to happen to me, but I don't know how...This has yet to happen to me, but I don't know how I'll react when it does... You held your tounge, and I'm very proud of you for that. Not sure I could have held back... I do find it hilarious that everyone is an expert in the parenting department. Drives me nuts!! <br /><br />(Then again, I know I secretly think I know everything now that I have a child, but I just choose to keep it to myself! :)Lisa @ Heaven Senthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795670644423933851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-4933735958639849972006-12-20T17:07:00.000-06:002006-12-20T17:07:00.000-06:00I had an experience at the place our kids take swi...I had an experience at the place our kids take swimming lessons. After our lesson, I went in the hot tub with our 2-year old. I went in and she sat on the edge and dipped her toes in. This grouchy looking 50-plus woman glared at me awhile until she lectured me on the physiological changes your body goes through in a hot tub and that it isn't safe for my child was in there. I just said that I know what I am doing and she is safe. Hello! I have a college degree, I'm an RN, and I'm a smart Mom. Leave me alone! (& where are the 50-plus women replying to your blog Jana? I really want to know what is up!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-83851049575960358182006-12-20T14:56:00.000-06:002006-12-20T14:56:00.000-06:00That's it, I'm calling DCFS on you. HA! My favori...That's it, I'm calling DCFS on you. HA! My favorite is people who comment on what you should or should not do when they DO NOT HAVE CHIDLREN!! I always smile sweetly and say, "Oh, is that what your peditrician says?" <br /><br />I also agree with Melissa. Do not touch my kid. In any way. GGRR.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03279956477604083080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-73432139391179651282006-12-20T07:02:00.000-06:002006-12-20T07:02:00.000-06:00Carrie, I can drive!
Just snub 'em. Or smile swe...Carrie, I can drive! <br /><br />Just snub 'em. Or smile sweetly, you know that shut up or I'll hurt you smile and if they still don't leave you alone call me and carrie!<br /><br />Sam is a store screamer. No matter what I do we always have a least one meltdown in the store. This one time I swear everyone in there had perfect children because they looked at me like we had three heads. I was so mad I didn't even want Sam to stop. I got really frustrated and decided after that it wasn't worth my time thinking about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-13412491079230632942006-12-19T23:30:00.000-06:002006-12-19T23:30:00.000-06:00Yippee! I'm rubbing off on Carrie! LOL! ;)Yippee! I'm rubbing off on Carrie! LOL! ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-84014063236555256232006-12-19T23:00:00.000-06:002006-12-19T23:00:00.000-06:00First off, you crack me up!! Who the heck cares w...First off, you crack me up!! Who the heck cares what other people think anyway?!? I remember when Kylie was about a month old and some lady told me that she was too young to be out and about. I was wondering who in the heck was supposed to get the groceries then? I don't know why some people think that it's their job to point out what they seem to think other people are doing wrong. Don't they have enough in their own life to keep them occupied? I'm babbling now so I'm going to quit. But, Jana, you're a wonderful mom. And give me about 6 hours notice and I'll be there to beat up anyone who says anything differently!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-49463676617641120702006-12-19T21:52:00.000-06:002006-12-19T21:52:00.000-06:00Hmm. I have lots to say about this, but I'll just...Hmm. I have lots to say about this, but I'll just mention a few. :)<br /><br />#1. No one should ever touch your child. No one. If anyone ever touches my child, I will be touching them. (yes, there's that anger management class I need again).<br /><br />#2. Like Jennifer, Cade fell out of the basket too. I also let my child stand up in the basket part. Not the seat though. Anyway, when Cade was about 2, I was checking out & he leaned over to touch something & Lord have mercy, there he went. Yea, those floors are hard & he hurt his head. A little. He was completely fine before we even left the store.<br /><br />#3. My all time favorite which I use ALL the time. "I'm sorry, is this child mine, or yours?" Enough said. <br /><br />xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-72978218230976109112006-12-19T21:45:00.000-06:002006-12-19T21:45:00.000-06:00at least she didn't fall... :(
I was pregnant w/ ...at least she didn't fall... :(<br />I was pregnant w/ #3 when #2 decided he would fall head first out of the buggy. I scooped him up and headed out the door and a woman stopped me NOT to tell me I was a bad mother but to tell me that I should sue Wal-mart. After giving her an ear full about how she is the reason milk is 4.97 a gallon I made my merry way to the doctor's office.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00378233022053982954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25622507.post-71793487313365725502006-12-19T15:11:00.000-06:002006-12-19T15:11:00.000-06:00I have people correct me too when I am in the stor...I have people correct me too when I am in the store. One time I stepped 4 feet away from my cart and someone scolded me for leaving the kids alone. Sorry, I was right there and there was nothing to worry about! In any case, biting your tongue (in my opinion) is really the only way to handle it. Truthfully, nothing you might say to them is going to change their thoughts on it and it might encourage them that they were right to question you. At least you can walk away with your dignity and YOU know that your kids are all in good hands! By the way, I always have a kid in the cart and a kid in the seat standing up. Will just is determined to stand up in the seat so I just keep a good eye on him too! It all works!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com